Healing Doesn't Mean You're Broken: Reframing the Journey to Wholeness
By Sherolde Hackett, LCSW
The Myth of Brokenness
Too often, women come to therapy whispering, “I think I’m broken.” These are high-achieving, responsible, resilient women who carry so much — yet secretly feel like something is wrong with them for needing support.
Here’s the truth: healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken. Healing is about reclaiming the parts of yourself that were silenced, dismissed, or misunderstood. It’s about making space for your full humanity — not squeezing into someone else’s version of strength.
The Strong Woman Armor
For many BIPOC women, strength has been a survival strategy passed through generations. Strength is praised and expected. But strength without softness, without room for vulnerability, can become armor.
Armor protects — but it also isolates. Healing invites you to take the armor off, piece by piece. Not because you’re weak, but because you’re tired of fighting alone.
Therapy as a Radical Act of Self-Respect
Therapy isn’t a last resort. It’s not proof that you’re broken or failing. It’s a radical act of self-respect.
When a woman says, “I don’t have to do this by myself anymore,” she is choosing wisdom over survival mode. Therapy is about valuing your peace, not proving your strength.
At Nurture the Soul Women’s Counseling, I honor the truth that high-functioning doesn’t always mean whole. You can be excelling at work and still be emotionally exhausted. You can be the one everyone relies on and still feel unseen. You can be healing — and still be worthy right now.
Reframing the Journey
Healing isn’t a straight line or a checklist. It looks like:
Choosing rest when you’ve been taught to hustle
Saying no without guilt
Feeling your feelings without judgment
Allowing your story to be complex and beautiful
Healing is not about becoming someone new — it’s about remembering who you were before the world told you otherwise.
Signs You’re Healing (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)
You pause before reacting
You set a boundary — and hold it
You feel discomfort but don’t run from it
You allow joy without questioning if you’ve “earned” it
You ask for help — and receive it
These may seem small, but they are sacred shifts.
You Are Not a Project. You Are a Person.
There is nothing broken about needing support. There is no shame in tending to your soul. You don’t need to wait until everything falls apart to choose yourself.
Closing Invitation
If this speaks to where you are, I invite you to take the next step.
📌 I provide virtual therapy for women in New Jersey and Florida, specializing in anxiety, depression, trauma recovery, and life transitions. Together, we’ll focus not on fixing what’s “broken,” but on helping you come home to yourself.
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